How Soon Should You Date?

It really depends on your age, goals, and how serious the relationship was. If it wasn’t that important then maybe they weren’t the right one. On the other hand if you’ve spent years together, you may want to give yourself some time to process the breakup, and your feelings may change over the next few weeks or months. Dating is important in reestablishing our connections, updating our views, and continuing to learn about love, romance, relationships & personal connection. We are all here to love & be loved. So one should never give up.

Months Not Years

Give yourself and others a chance by leading a healthy balanced lifestyle, socialising, going out, and dating. Make sure you socialise and date with the right people who resonate with you, and where you want to be. If you’re both climbing the ladder, or both entrepreneurs, then you’ll have much in common. Many counsellors, legal experts, and other professionals tend to team up. If you are a divorcee, or widow, or you’re a parent, you still have a future to live, that includes love. But this may take understandably longer.

Usually there is a 2-6 month window. The average time to take out of dating is 4 months. This give you long enough to see how you feel. You may date and find it is a disaster, indicating that you need more time.

Some people find that they have yet to explore the relationship, and may have things they wish to resolve. Problems with recreational substances or alcohol, infidelity, unpredictable outbursts, or controlling behaviour can cause resentment, arguments, or a breakdown in communication. This happens when there is an imbalance in the relationship. Toxic relationships are very difficult to fix, as they require more work than a standard relationship. Both people may need therapy. Or they may need to separate and move on. But many get back together, or be on and off for years. Finally they may choose to end the relationship in a healthier way. Those who want to make it work will.  That’s why relationship therapy and marriage guidance & counselling services are so important. While those who aren’t meant for each other will finally see this as well, or will choose to quit their bad habits. The relationships worth fighting for, and those willing to do so, will benefit from the input. You often hear stories like this with infidelity and marriage problems. But both are committed to dealing with it healthily. This is why you shouldn’t rush into a new relationship, or start dating immediately. They may be topics, questions, or feelings you have yet to resolve. Mediation or therapy might work. But give yourself a time frame. And always do what’s best for you.

Some jump straight into the next relationship, without even looking back. And it’s good to know that it was all about them not you. Most people project their thoughts and feelings on to others in relationships we make a conscious effort not to do this, and to embrace the other person as much as possible. If we want real relationships and are ready for them, we are able to learn and grow in the relationship, and teach & share as well. If the people involved are not willing to give and take, and are on the take, then just be happy that you were not the one. And move forward. There is definitely no love lost there. Though it may hurt for a while.

The Perfect Power Couple

You could hunt for the person who’ll most suit your life & lifestyle. OR, you could meet someone totally the opposite and get along fantastically. They say that opposites attract. If you’re complimentary to each other and you get along, thats all that matters in n the end. Working together & being happy.

When Dating Isn’t A Great Idea

If you have young children it is not a great idea to bring people in and out of your Childs life or children lives (home). Instead focus on you, and your family. Cherish what you have. Keeping you and your family secure is all that matters. If you are laid off work, or in a rut, or have health issues, wait for a better time. Make sure you always have enough to cover yourself, and your date. Always be financially independent. And avoid dating when you’re not at your best. If you’ve lost your job, lost a relative, or are recovering from anything, give yourself some time. It’s always best to look after YOU. Getting things right in your life is attractive.

Whatever issues you may be going through therapy, bereavement counselling, physical therapy, and other forms of rehabilitation will ensure that when it’s time to meet the right person,  you’ll be ready, healthy, happy & feeling secure. Otherwise you might attract the wrong person.

Narcissistic relationships, unbalanced or dependant relationships, trauma bonding, alcohol, drugs, and casual affairs can be harmful to your life & your prospective partner. How many stories have you read or heard about narcissists lately? When you’re happy & healthy you’ll be able to keep the dodgy ones & gold diggers away. Make sure you’re in a healthy space before you date.

Once you’ve healed, and have your life together, you can then decide how much time & money you’d like to invest in finding your next partner. Because unfortunately, like everything else, dating, and marketing yourself does cost money. Make the right impression!

Stay Chill There’s No Rush!

Doing the things you like, spending quality time with family, and a bit of self love is all you need. And a good few friends. Eventually you will meet someone that’s right for you. Be confident, create a dating profile, and then see who turns up. You’ll never know till you try. Always be yourself. And let your fun personality shine. It’s not always about age either, as many of us mature like fine wine. Sometimes coaching can help prepare you for your next relationship lineup.